So nearly every relationship will come to an end, sometimes expected, sometimes out of the blue, sometimes for the greater good of those involved and sometimes too late.

In my case, i feel the real was made at just the right time. I’m not going to paint a fairy tale of separation and remaining best of friends and being completely amicable. However, I feel it was destined to end one way or the other and the time and manner in which it ended has gave us the best chance of coming out of this with the least damage and the least possible impact on the children. If this had a carried on we would have ended up hating each other and in all likelihood someone else would have got involved.

There really is never a perfect time and in all honesty we ended are relationship 18 months too late. There is a very simple reason behind this…. the second child. If my ex wife have never fallen pregnant, we would have ended much sooner. We both had things we were unhappy about and I think we both understood the issues we were having but after the best part of ten years we had grown apart and i think with life and work and commitment, it came down to the fact we both simply did not want to put the effort in to fix it.

We have grown apart, our interests are different and we both tried to fit in with each other and what each other wanted but in the end ….. trying to fit in with the other person was making us unhappy and if I am honest it was affecting me in a big way physically and mentally and my relationship with my boys was suffering. I had to chose between my marriage and my relationship with my boys…. I could only be happy one way…. the boys won….

I will try and finish each blog bluntly and honestly….. I made excuses, I was not a good husband or father and I put other things first to make me happy… I made mistakes…. but everything happens for a reason and you can’t change what has happened I’m the past but you can change the future before it is too late…